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3/31/2021 0 Comments

SPit and Tears

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​What do I think?

I think that instead of posting this video on social media for the world to see, mom should have:
  1. Validated her daughter’s anger and clearly explained the reason why the girl could not have gum and why. Of course, this might not have improved the child’s mood, but that is part of the process of disciplining the child, and integral to establishing boundaries. While young children are not consistently rational, they do not lack the ability to reason and to understand.
    Telling my five-year-old son that he cannot have candy is sure to bring on tears but telling my young son that he can’t have candy because it will cause cavities is most likely to elicit a deep sigh and an acceptance of my denying his request.
  2. Asked her daughter not to spit, and clearly communicated using non-judging, non-shaming words why spitting is wrong.  As the supposedly rational and aware adult, mom should know that spitting is a form of communication from a person who is clearly unable to verbally articulate their feelings.  The child is angry.  Humans are baffling.  If the average person were to encounter an angry adult, they would give the adult space to calm down or offer support.  However, with children the opposite generally occurs.  Instead of attempting to soothe the child through music, song, or just leaving her alone, mom verbally antagonizes the child, and even laughs at the child’s distress further enraging the girl.
  3. Stopped engaging with the child.  It is virtually impossible for an angry, irrational person to think clearly and to make good decisions.  The child has reached the point of no return.  The child is strapped into the child safety seat, so she poses no threat to mom.  At this stage, a wise, rational mom would make brief intermittent eye contact with the child via the rearview mirror while saying, “Once you are calm will talk about what happened, but for now I am going to turn on music and focus on driving.  Once you are calm, and no longer spitting or yelling, and ready to talk, please let me know”, and proceeded to drive home without antagonizing the child. ​
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​Suggestions?

​Mom needs take a few courses on child development or read a few books on the topic and learn how to engage with an angry human being, especially one who is young and is learning how to remain rational when angry.
Somewhere someone is thinking to themselves that this child is a spoiled entitled brat who wants to have her own way for having a temper tantrum.  The child in the video is most likely a normal child who wants something that she cannot have, and denying the request for the gum, while explaining why she cannot have the gum and not giving in to the angry demands is part of the learning (discipline) process for young children.  Children do not come into this world “knowing better”.  Children come into this world knowing nothing more than how to eat.  Babies can literally forget to breathe.  Over the course of years and months they learn the skills needed to survive in this world, and that includes managing their own behaviors which is acquired through the practice and trial and error of co-regulating behaviors with an adult who has placed their ego aside and is not offended by the actions of someone who literally does not know better.
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3/4/2021 0 Comments

How I Increased My Son's Iron Stores in SIx Month without Supplements.

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My youngest child, whose diet consisted of about 60 - 70% breast milk and 30 - 40% solid foods, was iron deficient at one year of age. He ate a pretty varied diet, but he did not eat enough of any food to consume the amount of iron that was needed to raise his iron levels or iron store.  His iron level was around six, and within 6 months I was able to raise his iron level to just over 12 by taking the following steps:

1) Any liquids that my son consumed, other than water, were scalded in a cast iron pan, even expressed breastmilk.  Cooking food in cast iron cookware is known to increase the iron levels of certain foods.  Scalded liquids were then served at their normal temperature.  If your child drinks orange juice, or other acidic juice high in vitamin C , these are ideal for increasing the body's absorption iron.

2) I added iron fortified infant oat cereal to yogurt, I also squeezed the juice of a quarter of a lemon into the mixture to increase the absorption of iron  by the body.  Since your son likes peanut butter, you can easily add iron fortified infant cereal to the paste and he wouldn't likely notice.  Consider spritzing the jelly with fresh lemon juice or orange juice before closing the sandwich. 

I also added the infant cereal to any food possible; pasta sauce, milk, apple sauce, etc.  Not a enough to change the texture, but just enough to add additional iron to everything consumed.  I also spritzed every food that I could with fresh lemon, lime or orange juice.

3) I cooked as much of his food as possible in cast iron cookware, and I definitely warmed my son's food in cast iron cookware instead of using the microwave. 

4) I cooked liver (in cast iron) and then grated the meat over savory dishes.  One container of liver lasted close to a month. I froze the meat, only cooking one piece at a time that I would just for 3 to 5 days.  I used a Microplane to finely grate the meat.  You can also easily add liver to pub & j.  Don't use a lot, you don't want the sandwich to taste like meat, but you want added nutrients.  

Things to Consider

1) The calcium in dairy blocks the absorption of iron, so consider using a vegan cheese to make macaroni and cheese.  Last night I made Macaroni and Cheese with Violife Vegan Just Like Cheddar Shreds and Planet Oat Extra Creamy Oatmilk.  
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(I always said that I could never become a Vegan because of my love of cheese, but this macaroni and cheese was great.)  I suggest melting Violife in Oatmilk (or your choice of milk substitutes) with Vegan butter and then adding the mixture to the pasta.  
The cheeses melts easier this way than adding the shreds directly to the pasta and cooking until melted.  For added iron, boil your pasta, and melt make the cheese sauce in cast iron cookware.
2) Cook everything possible in cast iron cookware.  Acidic sauces are ideal.  The longer the food is in the pot during cooking, the higher the iron transfer.  Consider turning down the temperature and cooking your food low and slow to increase the amount of time that the food is in the pot or pan.

3) Dried Prunes and dried apricots are also good for increasing iron, consider adding those to your son's diet.

4) Continue to offer iron rich green vegetables with each meal.  Don't force your son to eat them, just offer.  Make a game of it.  Challenge him to see who can eat a tablespoonful first, because a tablespoon is just a little less than what he needs, but it is a great start to introducing foods that he might not like.

In Closing

I was hesitant to use an iron supplement, because they all seemed to contain ingredients that weren't clean.  Talking with my pharmacist reassured me that the iron in infant cereal was a great alternative. 

Keep in mind that you want to add incremental amounts of iron to your son's diet.  Think about what you add over the course of a day, and a week, and a month.  Don't fixate on each meal.   Good luck, and always consider consulting a pediatric nutritionist if you have any concerns.

P.s.

Once upon a time I blogged my son's meal's, here is a link if you would like a tiny bit of inspiration. 
Immanuel's Meals
Also, I receive a small commission if you purchase anything trough the amazon links posted above.

Cooking in Cast Iron

I used a small skillet when cooking my son's foods separately or when scalding breastmilk or other liquids to drink.  You want to expose as much of te surface of the foods to the pot as possible.
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