The Conscious Mom - Face Book Group Rules
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If, after the 28 days of silence a member makes comments that do not align with the philosophy of The Conscious Mom, the admin team reserves the right to remove that member from The Conscious Mom, or to mute that member for up to 28 days. The conscious Mom is also a safe space for members who are committed to holistic parenting practices, removing members who don't share the same beliefs helps to maintain the integrity of the group.
***** THE RULES*****
Welcome to The Conscious Mom! This space is for Black Moms who are committed to, or interested in parenting with love, mutual respect, realistic boundaries, positive affirmations, and peace by intentionally modeling the lifestyle that they want their children to emulate. Cultivating The Conscious Mom is a lifestyle not a parenting tactic.
GROUP MISSION:
To provide support and practical advice while we parent by example in the black community.
GROUP GUIDELINES
The Conscious Mom is not the place to discuss other approaches or to debate the pros and cons of various parenting philosophies, as this distracts from this group's purpose and provides an unsavory environment for those committed to Respectful Parenting. Please read and follow closely. We reserve the right to delete posts and to remove members without discussion when these guidelines are violated.
1a) Please read the files to gain a greater understanding of Respectful Parenting/ Respectful Discipline.
1b) This group is NOT a general parenting group. It is specifically reserved for parents and caregivers who are interested in learning about and practicing Respectful Parenting. However, to ensure that members can receive Respectful Parenting focused advice, general parenting posts will be approved nightly between the hours of 7:30 and 9:30 CST. If a general parenting post is submitted outside of these hours, it will be approved at 7:30PM CST.
RESPECTFUL COMMUNICATION: We ask that all members who participate here do so respectfully and mindfully. Avoid making thoughtless, provocative, defensive, or hostile comments. Personal attacks on anyone will not be tolerated. GIF and meme comments will be deleted.
If you notice that a member is misusing this board for the purpose of inciting conflict or posting inappropriate or inflammatory articles/materials, please do not comment or engage with the poster; rather tag and administrator or a moderator.
You can also PM one of us if you sense a member is misusing this group. Administrators reserve the right to remove comments and people who disregard group guidelines.
Shaming other members for resorting to physical discipline or other punitive measures will not be tolerated. The Conscious Mom is here to encourage and to uplift one another in our struggle to raise our children with love, while we instill in them the discipline needed to function in our society. However, we are not required to hold space for members who are insistent upon discussion of physical and punitive punishment.
PHOTOS and IMAGES: When posting a question, avoid adding “for attention” style photos to the post. Images should only be used if they help provide extra information needed for answering the question. This is out of respect for the group. Posts with images are often more visible in the feed, thus detracting attention from other posts.
We are not required to approve PENDING POSTS which include the words "pop, hit, spank, yell, shame, pinch, etc". The OP will be asked to rephrase the comment/question, including the removal of words and phrases, not in line with the principles of the group.
We will also not approve posts related to circumcision.
OFFER RESPECTFUL PARENTING ADVICE ONLY: Keep on the topic of Respectful Parenting when posting, commenting, and offering advice. Please do not offer advice if you are unsure of the philosophy of Positive Parenting. Comments to the effect of “It’s not Respectful Parenting but this worked for us…” or, “We take some of Respectful Parenting and leave the rest…” will not be tolerated. You are welcome to practice parenting in your home in any way you wish but the purpose of the group is to help people more fully understand and practice Positive Parenting’s philosophy of empathy, understanding, mutual respect and compassion.
Posts which condone, support, uphold, encourage, or suggest the following actions as a suitable means of punishment or redirection will not be approved, and comments will be deleted:
Spanking
Popping
Tapping
shaking
slapping
Yelling
Shaming
Cursing
Insults
Time out
Exercise
Punitive Punishments
Posts which condone, support, uphold, encourage, or suggest CIO or any sleep training methods will not be approved, and comments will be deleted.
********The Conscious Mom is about changing mindsets to live in a way that embrace the tenets of Respectful Parenting and Respectful Discipline.
Please ensure that your responses and comments center the tenets of Respectful Parenting and Positive (Respectful) Discipline
Empathy
Mutual Respect
Healthy Attachment
4)Proactive Discipline
5)Positive Discipline
&
Positive (Respectful) Discipline
1)Helps children feel a sense of connection. (Belonging and significance)
2)Is mutually respectful and encouraging. (Kind and firm at the same time.)
3)Is effective long-term. (Considers what the children are thinking, feeling, learning, and deciding about themselves and their world – and what to do in the future to survive or to thrive.)
4)Teaches important social and life skills. (Respect, concern for others, problem solving, and cooperation as well as the skills to contribute to the home, school, or larger community.)
5)Invites children to discover how capable they are. (Encourages the constructive use of personal power and autonomy.) **********
ADVOCATING FOR CHILDREN: This group does not subscribe to terms such as terrible twos or any other derogatory descriptor used when referring to children. Similarly, when referring to issues you may be having with your child, avoid using labels such as horrible, lazy, selfish, rude etc. It is more productive to simply describe the behavior you would like help managing. It may not seem a big deal but changing how we view and refer to children can help put us in a better mindset and allow us to approach dealing with the issue from a more productive perspective.
NO SELF PROMOTION: Do not use this group to advertise except on Small Business Saturday. Any posts created more than 24 hours before the appointed date will be deleted.
SHARING LINKS: Only share controversial links if you have a genuine question to ask about the content. Do not post articles/blogs, especially on controversial issues, just to get a reaction from the group. Please save these posts for other groups or your personal page. We also ask that unless you are truly seeking support and advice, please refrain from complaints about the ways that other parents and caregivers care for babies and children (e.g., the woman that did x,y,z with her child at the park). It creates a negative atmosphere that is often not conducive to learning.
USE THE SEARCH FUNCTION: Search previous posts before you post.
Before you search, check the files! The admin team has compiled a sufficient database of articles and resources to assist in our parenting journey.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/2025799147647593/files/
This group is comprised of women who are of African descent, including some of multi-racial backgrounds. Many mothers in this group have children with men of different races and ethnicities. We are all here to receive support and encouragement as we strive to parent our children with grace, dignity, and compassion. Group members who make comments which insult, belittle, demean, or castigate people of other races will be warned once and then removed from the group.Black people are not a monolith, and our differences should unite and not divide us. Please refrain from making remarks which call into question the authenticity of members backgrounds.
This group is comprised of women whose orientation and family structure might differ from what is considered common in society. These individuals and family units are no less deserving of humanity in this space or anywhere else. The Conscious Mom is working to become a safe space for LGBTQ women who practice some form of holistic parenting. Any comments that call in to question their right to exist, or are demeaning will be removed, and the member deleted.
Do not post screenshots from the group.
Do not block group administrators or moderators.
Do you need advice, but you don't want to post publicly in the group? Submit your question as usual, but type **ANONYMOUS POST PLEASE at the top of your post. An Admin or Moderator will then submit your post with the heading Anonymous Post Advice Needed.
Do not delete posts or comments as it is a disservice to group members when posters take time and care to help one another. The knowledge shared is not for one person, but for the entire group! If you do not like the way things are going, tag or pm somebody from the admin team & we’ll address it.
Please keep your off-topic posts aligned with the daily theme. We will delete posts submitted more than 24 hours in advance.
So Cute Sunday
Meatless Monday
Talk About it Tuesday
Winning Wednesday
Small Business Saturday
To protect our members, it is The Conscious Mom’s policy not to exchange money within the group. This includes but is not limited to sharing information regarding ones Cash App, PayPal, Venmo or any other money-sending app. This also includes not petitioning members of the group to donate to other members. This does not include group-sponsored activities posted by the admin team. The Conscious Mom is a wonderful space for moms to connect. We want to protect the integrity of the space for all of us.
The admin team will delete all WWYD type videos submitted for approval. It was hoped that members would use these videos as an opportunity to reflect, and to respond from a Positive Parenting/ Positive Discipline lens. Unfortunately, this rarely occurs and proves frustrating for members on both end of the parenting spectrum.
In order to preserve this group as a safe space for members who are committed to parenting without physical, verbal, and emotional abuse it is no longer feasible to engage in these types of discussions.
THINGS TO KNOW:
When you post a question about an issue you are having with your child, it is usual, within this approach, to have to do a lot of self-reflection before coming up with an answer. Often, the answer does not lie with our children, it lies within ourselves and unpacking that takes time and commitment. It can trigger all sorts of emotions in us to be confronted with this but please note that this is an important step in moving forward and strengthening the relationship you have with your children. We are here to support that process and hope to help you in your parenting journey.
Please enjoy this learning community!
Disclaimer: The above are not all from my brain, some rules were borrowed from other sources and others are the work of the The Conscious Mom Admin/Mod team.
ADMINS:
Your group admins are:
Pia Mattix Davis
Krischa Esquivel
Tanisha Watkins Henderson
Niya Martinez
Your group Moderators are:
Ruthie Onyinyechi Ijeoma
Kasha Toffah
Martrisha Bradshaw
Cori Lynn
Daejah Ramseur
Lexi Romanini
These are your first points of contact if you are having any issues within the group.
Please note that the admin team and other experienced members in the group give up hours of their time to freely offer support and advice to members. It is a huge job and gratitude is appreciated. I, Pia Mattix Davis reserve the right to mute or remove from the group any member who harasses a member of the admin team. I value their time and contributions and will not leave them vulnerable to attack. Those who wish to play devil’s advocate, or to challenge the rules are subject to the previously mentioned consequences. It is my desire to create a space that is safe for those who truly wish to practice nonviolent parenting, that they may do so in an area that is free from those who are not fully committed. This does not mean that we won’t have our good and our bad days, it means that we won’t question the logic and necessity of parenting our children with empathy, compassion, and free of violence.
Remember, if after the 28 days of silence a member makes comments that do not align with the philosophy of The Conscious Mom, the admin team reserves the right to remove that member from The Conscious Mom, or to mute that member for up to 28 days. The conscious Mom is also a safe space for members who are committed to holistic parenting practices, removing members who don't share the same beliefs helps to maintain the integrity of the group.
- Openly identify as a Black womxn/non-binary/femme caregiver or mom.
- Characterize physical, emotional and psychological punishments as abuse.
- Understand and accept that the admin team will mute your account in The Conscious Mom, and that all new members are unable to post or comment in The Conscious Mom for 28 days On the 29th day you will automatically have access to contribute in group discussions.
If, after the 28 days of silence a member makes comments that do not align with the philosophy of The Conscious Mom, the admin team reserves the right to remove that member from The Conscious Mom, or to mute that member for up to 28 days. The conscious Mom is also a safe space for members who are committed to holistic parenting practices, removing members who don't share the same beliefs helps to maintain the integrity of the group.
***** THE RULES*****
Welcome to The Conscious Mom! This space is for Black Moms who are committed to, or interested in parenting with love, mutual respect, realistic boundaries, positive affirmations, and peace by intentionally modeling the lifestyle that they want their children to emulate. Cultivating The Conscious Mom is a lifestyle not a parenting tactic.
GROUP MISSION:
To provide support and practical advice while we parent by example in the black community.
GROUP GUIDELINES
The Conscious Mom is not the place to discuss other approaches or to debate the pros and cons of various parenting philosophies, as this distracts from this group's purpose and provides an unsavory environment for those committed to Respectful Parenting. Please read and follow closely. We reserve the right to delete posts and to remove members without discussion when these guidelines are violated.
1a) Please read the files to gain a greater understanding of Respectful Parenting/ Respectful Discipline.
1b) This group is NOT a general parenting group. It is specifically reserved for parents and caregivers who are interested in learning about and practicing Respectful Parenting. However, to ensure that members can receive Respectful Parenting focused advice, general parenting posts will be approved nightly between the hours of 7:30 and 9:30 CST. If a general parenting post is submitted outside of these hours, it will be approved at 7:30PM CST.
RESPECTFUL COMMUNICATION: We ask that all members who participate here do so respectfully and mindfully. Avoid making thoughtless, provocative, defensive, or hostile comments. Personal attacks on anyone will not be tolerated. GIF and meme comments will be deleted.
If you notice that a member is misusing this board for the purpose of inciting conflict or posting inappropriate or inflammatory articles/materials, please do not comment or engage with the poster; rather tag and administrator or a moderator.
You can also PM one of us if you sense a member is misusing this group. Administrators reserve the right to remove comments and people who disregard group guidelines.
Shaming other members for resorting to physical discipline or other punitive measures will not be tolerated. The Conscious Mom is here to encourage and to uplift one another in our struggle to raise our children with love, while we instill in them the discipline needed to function in our society. However, we are not required to hold space for members who are insistent upon discussion of physical and punitive punishment.
PHOTOS and IMAGES: When posting a question, avoid adding “for attention” style photos to the post. Images should only be used if they help provide extra information needed for answering the question. This is out of respect for the group. Posts with images are often more visible in the feed, thus detracting attention from other posts.
We are not required to approve PENDING POSTS which include the words "pop, hit, spank, yell, shame, pinch, etc". The OP will be asked to rephrase the comment/question, including the removal of words and phrases, not in line with the principles of the group.
We will also not approve posts related to circumcision.
OFFER RESPECTFUL PARENTING ADVICE ONLY: Keep on the topic of Respectful Parenting when posting, commenting, and offering advice. Please do not offer advice if you are unsure of the philosophy of Positive Parenting. Comments to the effect of “It’s not Respectful Parenting but this worked for us…” or, “We take some of Respectful Parenting and leave the rest…” will not be tolerated. You are welcome to practice parenting in your home in any way you wish but the purpose of the group is to help people more fully understand and practice Positive Parenting’s philosophy of empathy, understanding, mutual respect and compassion.
Posts which condone, support, uphold, encourage, or suggest the following actions as a suitable means of punishment or redirection will not be approved, and comments will be deleted:
Spanking
Popping
Tapping
shaking
slapping
Yelling
Shaming
Cursing
Insults
Time out
Exercise
Punitive Punishments
Posts which condone, support, uphold, encourage, or suggest CIO or any sleep training methods will not be approved, and comments will be deleted.
********The Conscious Mom is about changing mindsets to live in a way that embrace the tenets of Respectful Parenting and Respectful Discipline.
Please ensure that your responses and comments center the tenets of Respectful Parenting and Positive (Respectful) Discipline
Empathy
Mutual Respect
Healthy Attachment
4)Proactive Discipline
5)Positive Discipline
&
Positive (Respectful) Discipline
1)Helps children feel a sense of connection. (Belonging and significance)
2)Is mutually respectful and encouraging. (Kind and firm at the same time.)
3)Is effective long-term. (Considers what the children are thinking, feeling, learning, and deciding about themselves and their world – and what to do in the future to survive or to thrive.)
4)Teaches important social and life skills. (Respect, concern for others, problem solving, and cooperation as well as the skills to contribute to the home, school, or larger community.)
5)Invites children to discover how capable they are. (Encourages the constructive use of personal power and autonomy.) **********
ADVOCATING FOR CHILDREN: This group does not subscribe to terms such as terrible twos or any other derogatory descriptor used when referring to children. Similarly, when referring to issues you may be having with your child, avoid using labels such as horrible, lazy, selfish, rude etc. It is more productive to simply describe the behavior you would like help managing. It may not seem a big deal but changing how we view and refer to children can help put us in a better mindset and allow us to approach dealing with the issue from a more productive perspective.
NO SELF PROMOTION: Do not use this group to advertise except on Small Business Saturday. Any posts created more than 24 hours before the appointed date will be deleted.
SHARING LINKS: Only share controversial links if you have a genuine question to ask about the content. Do not post articles/blogs, especially on controversial issues, just to get a reaction from the group. Please save these posts for other groups or your personal page. We also ask that unless you are truly seeking support and advice, please refrain from complaints about the ways that other parents and caregivers care for babies and children (e.g., the woman that did x,y,z with her child at the park). It creates a negative atmosphere that is often not conducive to learning.
USE THE SEARCH FUNCTION: Search previous posts before you post.
Before you search, check the files! The admin team has compiled a sufficient database of articles and resources to assist in our parenting journey.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/2025799147647593/files/
This group is comprised of women who are of African descent, including some of multi-racial backgrounds. Many mothers in this group have children with men of different races and ethnicities. We are all here to receive support and encouragement as we strive to parent our children with grace, dignity, and compassion. Group members who make comments which insult, belittle, demean, or castigate people of other races will be warned once and then removed from the group.Black people are not a monolith, and our differences should unite and not divide us. Please refrain from making remarks which call into question the authenticity of members backgrounds.
This group is comprised of women whose orientation and family structure might differ from what is considered common in society. These individuals and family units are no less deserving of humanity in this space or anywhere else. The Conscious Mom is working to become a safe space for LGBTQ women who practice some form of holistic parenting. Any comments that call in to question their right to exist, or are demeaning will be removed, and the member deleted.
Do not post screenshots from the group.
Do not block group administrators or moderators.
Do you need advice, but you don't want to post publicly in the group? Submit your question as usual, but type **ANONYMOUS POST PLEASE at the top of your post. An Admin or Moderator will then submit your post with the heading Anonymous Post Advice Needed.
Do not delete posts or comments as it is a disservice to group members when posters take time and care to help one another. The knowledge shared is not for one person, but for the entire group! If you do not like the way things are going, tag or pm somebody from the admin team & we’ll address it.
Please keep your off-topic posts aligned with the daily theme. We will delete posts submitted more than 24 hours in advance.
So Cute Sunday
Meatless Monday
Talk About it Tuesday
Winning Wednesday
Small Business Saturday
To protect our members, it is The Conscious Mom’s policy not to exchange money within the group. This includes but is not limited to sharing information regarding ones Cash App, PayPal, Venmo or any other money-sending app. This also includes not petitioning members of the group to donate to other members. This does not include group-sponsored activities posted by the admin team. The Conscious Mom is a wonderful space for moms to connect. We want to protect the integrity of the space for all of us.
The admin team will delete all WWYD type videos submitted for approval. It was hoped that members would use these videos as an opportunity to reflect, and to respond from a Positive Parenting/ Positive Discipline lens. Unfortunately, this rarely occurs and proves frustrating for members on both end of the parenting spectrum.
In order to preserve this group as a safe space for members who are committed to parenting without physical, verbal, and emotional abuse it is no longer feasible to engage in these types of discussions.
THINGS TO KNOW:
When you post a question about an issue you are having with your child, it is usual, within this approach, to have to do a lot of self-reflection before coming up with an answer. Often, the answer does not lie with our children, it lies within ourselves and unpacking that takes time and commitment. It can trigger all sorts of emotions in us to be confronted with this but please note that this is an important step in moving forward and strengthening the relationship you have with your children. We are here to support that process and hope to help you in your parenting journey.
Please enjoy this learning community!
Disclaimer: The above are not all from my brain, some rules were borrowed from other sources and others are the work of the The Conscious Mom Admin/Mod team.
ADMINS:
Your group admins are:
Pia Mattix Davis
Krischa Esquivel
Tanisha Watkins Henderson
Niya Martinez
Your group Moderators are:
Ruthie Onyinyechi Ijeoma
Kasha Toffah
Martrisha Bradshaw
Cori Lynn
Daejah Ramseur
Lexi Romanini
These are your first points of contact if you are having any issues within the group.
Please note that the admin team and other experienced members in the group give up hours of their time to freely offer support and advice to members. It is a huge job and gratitude is appreciated. I, Pia Mattix Davis reserve the right to mute or remove from the group any member who harasses a member of the admin team. I value their time and contributions and will not leave them vulnerable to attack. Those who wish to play devil’s advocate, or to challenge the rules are subject to the previously mentioned consequences. It is my desire to create a space that is safe for those who truly wish to practice nonviolent parenting, that they may do so in an area that is free from those who are not fully committed. This does not mean that we won’t have our good and our bad days, it means that we won’t question the logic and necessity of parenting our children with empathy, compassion, and free of violence.
Remember, if after the 28 days of silence a member makes comments that do not align with the philosophy of The Conscious Mom, the admin team reserves the right to remove that member from The Conscious Mom, or to mute that member for up to 28 days. The conscious Mom is also a safe space for members who are committed to holistic parenting practices, removing members who don't share the same beliefs helps to maintain the integrity of the group.