Two and a Half Years Old: Inflexible

Please keep in mind as you read the following lists of developmentally appropriate behaviors, that no two children are alike.  Some children might exhibit all the age-related characteristics, some might exhibit most, and there are some children who might not exhibit more than one or two. 

When using the list below, it is important to also consider your child’s adjusted age if applicable, environmental, and situational factors, the child’s temperament, and if the child is in a period of equilibrium or disequilibrium. ​

A 2 1/2-year old child usually but not always:

• is in a difficult phase
• is rigid and inflexible
• has almost no patience; wants what he wants when he wants it
• cannot adapt, give in, or wait a little while
• demands that everything be in its proper (to him) place
• requires routines be followed rigidly; in the same sequence, wears the same clothes, eats the same food
• is extremely domineering and demanding: he must give the orders, make the decisions
• is subject to violent emotions; there is little modulation of emotional expression (it is all intense!)
• is in an age of opposite extremes; he finds it almost impossible to make a choice and stick with it
• finds it nearly impossible to change gears, is highly persistent
• is vigorous, enthusiastic, energetic

Much of the following information is based on the studies by The Gesell Institute of Human Development, with the primary source being Your One Year Old, by Louise Bates Ames, Ph.D. Also included is information from Pick Up Your Socks by Elizabeth Crary. This information Can be found at the centerforparentingeducation.org