7/2/2018 0 Comments It's Not Okayby Pia Mattix Davis As parents most of us have said to our children at sometime "it's OK".
But is it really OK or are we just attempting to silence the child's cries and frustration instead of hearing what they have to say? As parents we are responsible for helping our children to nurture and develop their own voice, but when we tell them that it's OK, we are negating what we are attempting to teach. Instead we communicate that what the child is feeling right now is not what they should feel. So when your daughter falls off of her bike and hits her knee on the ground, or when your son is sad because someone hurt his feelings, instead ask, "does it hurt", "are you in pain", or "are you OK", and allow your child to answer. If your child has yet to develop the vocabulary to fully express his feelings, it is acceptable to offer choices of words to help the child to identify and to communicate how they feel. It is never OK to tell the child how he or she feels. The image above is a stock photo.
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